“When you look at your life, the greatest happiness are family happiness.” -- Joyce Brothers
A family is an ecosystem by itself made up of individuals with personal needs that have to be integrated within a family's overall needs. Harmony and coherence in relationships promote a good family life and it needs hard work and a deeply ingrained understanding of the concepts of sharing, giving and caring.
In order for a family to have close knit harmonious ties, the main two pillars, the mother and father, need to know how to inculcate these values into their children right from their infancy.
It is not like sending them to school to learn and acquire a certificate; it becomes a way of life. One for all, all for one and that is what makes a cohesive family unit. It is for the mother and father to stress the importance of family ties to siblings, the importance of consideration for the other member and for the family as a whole and to put selfishness and pettiness aside.
Today's lifestyles are busy and each one is engrossed in his routine with the father, mother, children set on their own paths, with their own focus. Sooner, rather than later, such a family is going to fall apart and children suffer the most with most of them developing a feeling of being lost. Parents need to make an effort to pull in everyone within a family circle and give direction.
The family is the foundation of an individual's life map. If he grows up in a family with a strong value based system, ethics and an environment that helps him grow, he can be an achiever with a positive life style.
By creating intrinsically strong family bonds and mental balance, the parents create a strong citizen for our world. In order to do all that parents need to follow a plan right from the start. Parents need to lay down certain ground rules that become ingrained in each member's life and also set an example for others to emulate. Some basic values and behavior patterns the mother and father could define may include:
(a) Listen to others; try to understand, accept, forgive and develop bonds.
(b) Clearly define the concepts of sharing and caring and that by giving one receives a lot more and gains a lot of happiness.
© Insist on family discussions, get - togethers and joint activities to develop intimacy and stability of ties. Memories develop that endure and bonds will be cherished through life. In families, if childhood values of maintaining ties have been ingrained, they will make it a point to attend family reunions.
(d) Developing the attributes of sharing, caring and giving in each member. Show that you care, appreciate and be appreciated in return that forges closer ties and deeper understanding. This gives happiness to each one and makes for a happy family overall. The family is but a stage to develop a core set of values you will apply to life and relationships outside and it shows everywhere.
The key to a good family is the mother and the father. It takes concerted effort, time and hard work to instill values in their little children. However, start them off young and you have defined a path, cultivated a tree that has deep roots and strong branches to withstand the storm of life.