Spanking and hitting children on the pretext of discipline is an age old affliction that has plagued our society since time immemorial. Imagine the irony when a parent hits a child (a negative act) to counter or discourage a negative behavioural pattern. While a child by the virtue of being young in age has an excuse, the parents have no excuse for displaying such aggression?
Spare the rod and spoil the child, an often repeated statement that offers physical abuse the guise of discipline. In a so called civil world a parent can in an attempt to inhibit any anti-social behaviour, pick up the proverbial rod to physically drill lessons into a kid.
The best way is ground the kid, withhold TV and video games privileges, add more chores and at max confining them to their rooms. Make sure that while every misdemeanor is accompanied with a token punishment, every good act is equally rewarded.
Ensure that your child understand that every action has consequences. It also instils in them a sense of responsibility which makes him a self-reliant and decent human being.
A research on corporal punishments recently highlighted some scary and horrifying truths. The results linked spanking to ten negative behaviours including aggression, anti-social behavior and mental health problems. Some of the most dangerous criminals around the world have been spawned in an abusive household. While many parents may be unaware of it, continued physical abuse can have some serious long-term negative effects. Besides, there is no conclusive proof that spanking etc. actually helps kids. Besides the physical affect, physical punishments also have a deep rooted mental impact on the child. With every beating he takes, fear digs deeper into the child's psyche and often makes it his involuntary response to most situations.
Here are #10 reasons not to hit your child:
1. Spanking is often confusing for the kids as he feels that “It's fine for adults to hit, but not kids.”
2. Spanking often becomes a lesson on why not to get caught the next time.
3. Children might mistake violence as a solution to problems.
4. A child acting out of fear could be rendered socially inept as he grows up.
5. Spanking teaches children to respond to an external stimulus rather than an internal stimulus.
6. Spanking is mostly a momentary solution. Any kid will most probably follow a similar discourse unless shown how to act differently.
7. Hitting a child hampers her personality development as fear becomes the driving force for all action.
8. Violence also harbours selfishness and lies while hampering empathy, as all actions are solely guided to act in his/ her interest.
9. Children once exposed to violence see it as a means of power and control.
10. Spanking is a double edged sword, as a parent hits a kid to teach him manners, he also teaches him how to shout, act aggressively and how to not to act.